Decision to Love
— The Journey —
An experience to deepen your understanding of love
and discover new ways to connect with God, yourself, and others
Love Has the Power...
Love has the power to bring us our greatest joy...and our deepest sorrow.
It fills our lives with hope, peace, belonging, and connection. Yet it can also leave us feeling misunderstood, lonely, frustrated, heartbroken, or overwhelmed.
Why?
What if much of our pain doesn't come from a lack of love, but from a lack of understanding?
The Decision to Love journey is an invitation to discover new perspectives of love that can transform the way you see God, yourself, and others.
As you begin to understand why people think differently, communicate differently, and express love differently, many of the frustrations that once created distance can begin to give way to understanding. Misunderstandings can become opportunities for empathy. Judgment can be replaced with compassion. Conflict can become an invitation to connect more deeply.
This journey won't remove every heartache or solve every relationship. But it can help you navigate love with greater wisdom, greater peace, and greater hope.
I hope you'll join me on the trail.
Who is this Journey For?
This journey is for people who want to...
Strengthen their relationship with God
Better understand themselves
Improve communication
Build healthier relationships
Find hope during difficult seasons
Learn practical ways to love more intentionally
Discover how small choices can transform everyday life
Find peace and hope regardless of the choices of others
What Can I Expect from the Journey?
Along the trail, you'll receive:
🎵 Inspirational Music to help you feel God's love and inspire you on the journey
📖 Chapters of my Book: Decision to Love: What My Marriage Taught Me about What It Truly Means to Love
to help you learn from my experiences and see love more clearly
💭 Reflection Questions to ponder and discuss what you are learning
🌿 "Journey Experiences" - Practical ways to love and deepen your relationships with God, yourself, and others.
💬 Community Discussion (Optional) - Discuss and learn from others who are also on the journey
Meet Your Guide (Host)
Hi, I'm Lindy
I'm a mother, speaker, singer/songwriter, and fellow traveler. The challenges in my marriage led me on a journey to understand love in ways I never expected. What I discovered changed how I see God, relationships, and people forever. What began as a search to strengthen my marriage became a lifelong journey to better understand love itself.
I don't have everything figured out, but I'd love to share what I've learned and invite you to discover it alongside me.
How Much Does The Experience Cost?
It's completely free.
I'm excited to share what I've learned about love, and my hope is that you will take what you discover and share it with others.
Time commitment:
Go as fast or as slow as you'd like. This is your journey. Take the time you need to reflect, learn, and grow.
I believe one of the reasons we are here on Earth is to learn.
Sometimes we learn through our own experiences—the slow, difficult, and often painful way.
But we can also learn from the experiences of others who have walked before us.
I created this trail so you could learn from the difficult parts of my journey, discover new perspectives on love, and hopefully find a smoother path forward in your own life.
It's a trail I hope will become well-travelled. I'm grateful to have you on the journey.
Trail Safety Notice:
Before You Begin the Journey
Every person's journey through love, relationships, and personal growth is unique. The Decision to Love journey is designed to provide inspiration, reflection, and new perspectives—it is not a substitute for professional counseling, therapy, medical advice, or other professional services.
As you walk this trail, you may encounter thoughts, memories, emotions, or experiences that are difficult or unexpected. Some parts of this journey may bring up painful feelings, past experiences, or personal challenges. This journey is not intended to diagnose, treat, or resolve mental health conditions or relationship situations. Please take responsibility for your own wellbeing and choose what is right for you at each step.
You are always free to pause, skip a section, or stop the journey at any time. By choosing to participate in the Decision to Love journey, you acknowledge that you are responsible for your own choices, actions, and personal experience along the way.
My hope is that this trail will provide opportunities for growth, healing, and a deeper understanding of love—but your journey belongs to you.
Praise from Previous Versions of the book:
“This book will change the way you think about relationships.”
Decision to Love is a powerful exploration of the differences in how people naturally give and receive love. The book does an excellent job showing how even well-intentioned people can struggle in relationships when they don’t fully understand one another or communicate in ways that feel “foreign” to the other person. What I appreciated most is that the book doesn’t just talk about love in theory — it helps explain why people can genuinely love each other and still miss each other emotionally. It reinforces the idea that love is not only about intention, but also about understanding how the other person experiences connection, care, and validation. Decision to Love offers practical insight, greater empathy, and a healthier lens for navigating relationships. It’s a valuable read for anyone who wants to communicate better, love more intentionally, and understand the people closest to them on a deeper level.
Lindy Kerby’s Decision to Love is a thoughtful and heartfelt exploration of love, marriage, faith, and personal growth. Through honest storytelling and deeply personal experiences, Lindy invites readers to examine their own assumptions about love and consider how different perspectives can affect relationships. One of the book’s greatest strengths is its vulnerability. Kerby shares both joyful and painful moments from her marriage, allowing readers to walk beside her as she learns that love is often expressed and perceived in very different ways. Central to the book is her "BE/DO" concept, which explores how some people primarily experience love through actions while others experience it through presence, perspective, and way of being. This framework provides an insightful lens for understanding misunderstandings that can arise even between people who genuinely care for one another. The author’s storytelling is engaging and relatable. From a childhood memory involving her grandmother’s gentle response to a spilled glass of milk to the challenges of early marriage and parenthood, each chapter illustrates important lessons about compassion, expectations, communication, and faith. These personal stories help transform abstract principles into practical examples that readers can easily apply to their own lives. Faith plays a significant role throughout the book. Lindy openly shares her evolving relationship with God, her struggles to recognize answers to prayer, and the ways spiritual experiences shaped her understanding of love. Readers who appreciate inspirational and faith-centered memoirs will likely find these reflections particularly meaningful. Even those from different faith backgrounds may connect with the universal themes of hope, forgiveness, gratitude, and personal transformation. Perhaps the most valuable message of Decision to Love is that love is not merely a feeling but a choice. This book encourages readers to move beyond judgment, seek understanding, and recognize that people often express love differently than we expect. The message is both compassionate and practical, offering hope to anyone navigating relationships, marriage, family challenges, or personal growth. Overall, Decision to Love is an uplifting and thought-provoking read. Its combination of personal narrative, relationship insights, and spiritual reflection makes it a worthwhile book for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of what it truly means to love.
